Independence vs. Interdependence
Welcome to this year first Friday Discussion. And you asked and we gave.
Quote of the day
Ubuntu: I am because we are.
Desmond Tutu
Independence vs. Interdependence
Another Friday to remember. Today we will be discussing a topic that was discussed in our 21 Days Of Planning 21DOP. Independence to Interdependence.
As we come into society as newborn babes, we are positioned to be dependent; our survival and growth relies upon our dependence on society, (our parents, elders, teachers, etc.).
But as we continue to grow, we begin to crave self-expression and freedom. We also realize our options are limited, and our choices are not what is given to us. The desire to be free to make our choices and express ourselves begin to grow stronger. And at that stage of life (mostly adolescent stage), we are exposed to the world, and it’s unending opportunities, so we force ourselves to Independence. Whether that is good or bad, all depends on the choices we make.
But as we grow, we fail to realize a stage where you have to switch from independence. We most times don’t see or fell the need, because the peak of independence is so intoxicating and quite satisfying. But as we look closer we realize our choices and our best don’t count that much, everything seems to be on a stall, the world no longer revolves around you, you don’t just face the consequences of your option, even when you are at your best. It is such realization that brings us to Interdependence.
What is Interdependence? In the simplest form: Interdependence is the understanding and realization that each one of us count and our impact affect one another. With the mindset of interdependence, you then do not act because of oneself interest, but for the interest of a culture, a system, a goal, a dream or a vision. Interdependence draws us to the truth that: While one man can make a lot of difference in our world, it is our cumulative effort towards a goal that makes and sustain the change we desire.
Interdependence flows in all areas of life, to all aspect of our relationship. It is the highest form of all stages of our relationships (Marriage, Friendship, Organizational, Religion, and Community). As you pride in your effort, learn to boast of our collective effort.
💡 As you journey to make your mark and express yourself, remember where you are is because of the ones that have gone ahead of you and what you do is the foundation of those that come before you.What’s Your Thought?
Have you had an experience where you saw the role of interdependence?
Have you witnessed a failed relationship, because of ignorance of interdependence?
In the various types of relationship you are engaged, do you tend to be more independent or interdependent?
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Be Determined, Stay Focus,
Ekerete Lord-kris.
(Hortharn)